{"id":16089,"date":"2020-06-10T12:38:43","date_gmt":"2020-06-10T11:38:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dide.org\/how-to-foster-resilience-in-children-and-adolescents\/"},"modified":"2020-06-10T12:38:43","modified_gmt":"2020-06-10T11:38:43","slug":"how-to-foster-resilience-in-children-and-adolescents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dide.org\/en\/how-to-foster-resilience-in-children-and-adolescents\/","title":{"rendered":"How to foster resilience in children and adolescents"},"content":{"rendered":"

What do parents want for their children? <\/strong> <\/strong><\/h2>\n

With little margin for error, surely the majority answer will be \u201cthat they are happy, that they grow up healthy and content\u201d<\/em>. We can understand that this answer leaves a broad, undefined margin, and by saying everything, nothing is said. Let’s delve a little deeper to get to the heart of the matter. <\/span><\/p>\n

We will probably also find among the alternatives \u201cthat they are a good person, that they know how to defend and assert themselves, that they have the strength to overcome, that they do in life what they want\u2026\u201d,<\/em> we are already spinning the ball of yarn more finely, but it is still not defined enough.<\/span><\/p>\n

We want to propose, within the social skills<\/strong> that must be included in education, the importance of assertiveness<\/strong> as essential in all facets of our life. Note, not submission or aggression, but assertiveness. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Assertiveness is the ability to express our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, assuming them and at the same time respecting the opinion of others without aggression.<\/span><\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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In other words, it is essential to know oneself, to have confidence in oneself, as well as empathy to put oneself in the place of the other because, in this way, we will understand the point of view of the other person even if we do not share it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Fostering resilience is possible from childhood; the key is to know their educational needs <\/span><\/h2>\n

Learning and practicing assertive behaviors allows one’s own messages to reach others, expressing opinions and showing consideration. Feelings of security and social recognition are achieved. <\/span><\/p>\n

The assertive behavior<\/strong> increases self-esteem; as a culmination, assertiveness<\/strong> is based on the respect that entails the freedom to express ourselves respecting others and assuming responsibility for our actions.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Primary resilience is that provided by the first caregivers, generally the parents, through attachment with the child, while secondary resilience occurs later through other people and one’s own experiences.<\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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To position ourselves in the world and in life, as always, is to start by knowing ourselves and, in this case, <\/g>our children; we can not only know what they are like but also how they are and <\/g>what their needs and potentials are<\/g>.<\/g><\/p>\n

It is possible to work with education in minors to achieve assertiveness. And we will take another step because what we want is for these children and young people to develop the capacity for reaction and adaptation to adjust to the challenges of the environment, through a constructive and innovative response to adversity, expressed in another way, that they are resilient<\/strong>, that they evolve positively in the face of difficulties, that they adapt to successfully face adversities, and that they are capable of identifying growth opportunities in times of crisis.<\/span><\/p>\n

In traditional regulated education, the detection of \u201cdefects\u201d or deviation from the norm of students predominated instead of the <\/g>identification of strengths<\/g>, especially at a strictly academic level. <\/p>\n

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The school with proactive resilient education requires teachers who know how to accompany the process of personal evolution of their students and who accept and know how to manage the diversity and complexity of the relationships between the different groups (teachers, students, or families). <\/span><\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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Resilience is a learning process that can occur throughout life and, beyond the particularities and diversity of each one, we can all learn to be resilient<\/strong>. The stimulation of cognitive, behavioral, and affective areas from an early age will help in adulthood to the exposure of negative or traumatic events. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Developing good self-esteem and high confidence in oneself and in others are factors that help to achieve the skill of resilience. <\/span><\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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According to Su\u00e1rez Ojeda<\/strong> (1993) \u2026\u201dresilience (from the Latin resilio) means a combination of factors that allow a child, a human being, to face and overcome the problems and adversities of life and build on them.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Resources and social skills possessed by a resilient minor (L\u00f6esel, 1989) <\/span><\/h2>\n